Sometime my MIL has no sense.

[skm]

Or maybe tact is a better word, or censorship. I don't know.

Yesterday we're visiting GMIL (MIL's mom). I was in the kitchen heating tortillas and dd was coloring at the dining table. MIL walks in and next thing I know she tells me dd is crying under the table. So of course I drop what I'm doing and try to see what's wrong and comfort her.

Then MIL makes this stupid comment "no wonder she wants num-num all the time, it's the only time you hold her." For a split second it didn't register then I got really hurt and told her so before I went on to comfort dd. She then later apologized and said it came out wrong, but good grief where did a comment like that even come from and what on earth did she intend to say?! Other than being hurt, I'm completely flabbergasted at how out of the blue it was. I know everyone makes mistakes and mis-speaks. I'm certainly guilty of that myself, but this comment wasn't even really pertinent to what was going on at the time.

I guess my feelings are still a little hurt and of course now I'm over-analyzing everything I do with my kids. *sigh*

I suppose I'll recover, though I still don't know what made dd sad enough to cry like that.

[dessismama]

Oh Sara,

How rude of your MIL!!! Oh, this hurts!!

I have realized some people just don't get it and in this case it is probably a case of misplaced or misguided upsetness on part of your MIL. She probably had something else on her mind and it came out the wrong way.

I hope your DD can tell you what happened, so you can feel a bit reassured...

((Hugs))

[hedra]

imho, that kind of comment comes from their own issues, not yours. my mom has come up with some doozies, but all have stemmed from her own stuff - like blaming me for miscarrying so many times, because she thought I was miscarrying all the girl babies, and she really wanted me to have a daughter... SHE was hurt that I didn't seem to want a daughter, she felt I was rejecting the relationship I have with her by not wanting to replicate it with my own kids. Maybe your mom felt she didn't hold your dh enough, herself, or maybe she is feeling that her mothering has been rejected by him and is just reactive about anything that is different than her way in reaction.