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#1
05-08-2005, 11:26 AM
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May TTC Hot Topic: Telling Others
Have you told other people you're TTCing? If so, who, how, when, and why
 If not, why?Share your experiences and we'll archive this thread for the Preconception/TTC Cubby. THANKS! Mari
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#2
05-08-2005, 11:28 AM
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This thread has been moved to the Cubby Hot Topic forum. If you are reading this now, you are now in the Cubby Hot Topic forum. Please consider participating in this thread. We love your feedback.
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Maribeth Doerr StorkNet Editor-in-Chief But most importantly! Mom to Eric and Chad plus 5 babies in heaven: Andrew, Mark, M.J., Summer Rose, and David (Chad's twin) To believe in a child is to believe in the future ~ Henry James
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#3
05-08-2005, 03:07 PM
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I don't think dh has told anyone. I have told my best friend and some friends online.
I think the main reason we haven't told people in our day to day lives is because of our son who is 3yo has GI, allergies, and immune issues. Our daughter has enviromental allergies. We suffer from male infertility so it may take us time to conceive another child.
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#4
05-11-2005, 08:14 AM
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In the beginning, it was sort of given that we are ttc'ing, and we didn't feel any need to share that with anyone. I spoke to just my mom. As it got more frustrating, 6 + months, dh told a few friends and got the old "just relax," and "it took us a while too."
When we started treatments, I spoke with a friend who was also experiencing infertility but had been at it a lot longer. Now I only talk about it with friends I feel comfortable with. It should be obvious to anyone with a half a brain, that we want a child.
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09-12-2005, 07:29 AM
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We never told anyone we were ttc. I got pg just before we got married and had a m/c, so everyone knew we had tried. When our first dd came along, we heard lots of "don't you have enough yet" comments, because we each had 2 from previous relationships. When we had Patti, we knew right away we'd want another baby soon so they could grow up together. We ttc again as soon as my body was ready. Patti was 10 months old when I got pg with Abby. We didn't tell anyone until after the first u/s.
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#6
09-12-2005, 02:32 PM
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The first time around it became more and more obvious to others. the "why" is because people would ask "so when are you having a baby" and we finally ran out of answers so we would say "as soon as we get pg" just to shut them up. then I m/c and it became obvious we had tried and luckily got dd quickly after that.
now we started ttc again when dd was 6months old and are still trying. At first we kept it quiet but again it started leaking out when people would ask "so when is #2 coming" and we started running out of answers! Now we just tell people that we don't have control over that department so they need to consult with God for an answer. It shuts them up. I mean when you have been going at it for over a year you get tired of the questions and want to know the answer yourself!
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#7
09-14-2005, 05:32 AM
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We recently had a full term loss, so people felt the door was wide open to ask us when we would try again. I guess they assume that will be the "cure" for our grief. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way, we are expecting again and still miss our daughter just as much.
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#8
01-07-2009, 11:12 AM
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told a few people
My DH and I let it slip that we were ttc, but after a year of trying with no luck I tried to keep quiet about it because so many people felt the need to give such advice as "just relax", "stop trying so hard", "it will come when it comes". While having a stress free environment is desirable, the so called "helpful" advice only made me more anxious and unsure of what to do. So, alas, I just won't talk to anyone who isn't in the same situation...
Sarah
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#9
01-07-2009, 02:49 PM
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Our close friends know, a couple of which are trying themselves. We kept it a secret when we first started trying, back in September, got pregnant right away but miscarried the end of November. I thought I would want to keep it a secret but I really needed to lean on my friends for support, so I ended up telling them about everything.
We decided this time around we would just be open about it from the beginning. A very close friend of mine had been going through the same situation, just a couple months ahead of me. Now we are both ttc and are able to talk about it to each other and truly relate. But not everyone is that lucky so these posts are a great way to vent.
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#10
02-18-2009, 11:53 AM
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We weren't ttc when we found out we were pregnant Jan 09. I just m/c four weeks ago and now people are telling us it's because it was meant to be and we're not ready for a baby. We've been married for two years, both have great jobs, and were both happy when we found out. Now we want to try but are nervous to tell our families, they weren't supportive the first time, they probably won't be now.
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