frustrated

[Anxious]

Did anyone else have a hard time starting their periods after their loss. I haven't had a period in 56 days. The Doc keeps telling me to wait it out that it is probably just stress.

Anybody got any ideas on how to not stress about getting pregnant?

Thanks

[Susan]

Hi Leigh Ann-

I'm glad to see you're around. I was just thinking about you this morning and wondering how you are doing.

After we lost our son in January it took me 7+wks before AF arrived again. Then my cycle was so strange - every two weeks and now I'm going on 5wks. For me I felt like my body was trying to tell me something. I was also going through some other health stuff, so I wasn't really thinking about ttc until last month.

I'm going to bet that AF will arrive for you soon. I think it's normal for your body to take a while to get back on track as frustrating as that is. Have you been using birht control? If not, you might want to test to just make sure you're not pregnant.

I don't have any suggestions about how to not stress about getting pregnant. Maybe if you took sometime to concentrate on yourself for a few weeks you will feel better. Even just saying "I'm going to concentrate on ME for one full week" and everyday just do something stress relieving and nice for yourself. Be selfish. If you can, take some nice baths or just pamper yourself in some way that you enjoy. I find that exercise really helps me a lot. It takes my mind off everything because I'm just concentrating on what I'm doing. I've also read a couple of very interesting books that have helped me to get through the last few months - I'm sure you are doing the same but I have a few titles for you if you are interested.

Best of luck to you. I've been thinking about you. You've got a lot of us here for support so don't be afraid to let us know when you need us! take care :)

[frankiecali]

Anxious -

I am so sorry for your loss. I remember you from TWG. Who would have thought we would end up here together...I guess no one in TWG ever thinks it will be them that ends up here...

(((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))


Re:the AF issue. I didn't get my period for 46 days - so that was almost 7 weeks. Thinking back i didn't even go LONGER than the doctors said but it felt like FOREVER!!! I delivered my daughter, Simone at 24 week on Feb 9th. I got my first AF on March 27th...you know what else March 27th is!??

THE FIRST DAY OF MY PREGNNACY :D I know you are still greiving and i am not telling you you SHOULD ttc right away but you do get pregnant very quickly when you have been recently pregnant.

I was really nervous that AF would never come back - but she does - I PROMISE!!! I remmeber she came on very suddenly - not the usual signs so you may have her visit tomorrow without any warning!! :)

[franros]

I remember that the doctors told me it would take 6-8 weeks after my m/c and it was about 6 weeks for me. It was hard because at least if I had the possibility of being pregnant again it made me feel better. There is nothing that makes the wait any easier, but try to treat yourself to something special. After the m/c, DH and I made reservations at a nearby resort so we would have something to look forward to.

[Anxious]

Thank you all so much. It is so nice to know you care and experience the same feelings.

My dh and I are TTC and have not used any Birth control since the baby was born. I did have a so called period in March which was about 6 weeks from having "Sweet Pea" but I have not had one since then. I have done those hateful HPT's and they are all neg.

I guess I'm just so anxious to have a little one in my life and at the same time I miss my baby girl so much. I am tyring to relax, like the Doc said but it is so hard when EVERYONE seems to be having babies but me.

Thanks for your help and caring. God bless!

[LaurenCR]

I am in the same situation. It has been almost 8 weeks since my loss and still not a hint of AF. My doctor says that is she doesn't come soon, I can start taking provera (progesterone pills, 10mg for 5 days.) This should bring on AF. Now I am starting to second guess that maybe I am pg again, but DH and I have been pretty careful and I have no pg signs. (With the last one my bbs were sore and swollen from day one and my appetite skyrocketed right away.) I hope I am not since I have been having an occasional beer or glass of wine and doing high impact aerobics at the gym. I hope AF comes soon for both of us!!! I don't know about you, but I can't wait to start TTC again!