Time to put on my big girl panties...

[sunny-d]

Not literally :lol:

Today I went in for my nurse appt where they do all the back ground and lab work. The nurse had to pick her jaw up off the desk when I told her this was my 11th pregnancy and will be our 6th child. (then she made a lovely snide comment about obviously not having fertility issues...) She then laughed out loud at my husbands age. (He is a whopping 45.) (I am 37 and felt like an old granny during this whole interview.) It was awesome. :rolleyes:

She then lead my across the hall where a horrible woman drew blood and laughed and told me how she would NEVER have 6 children. EVER. I told her she had never met children as lovely as mine.

So, this is just the beginning. I realize I am no spring chick and that 6 children is an unusually large family for our area (East coast). It is time for me to enjoy the reactions I get rather than be annoyed by them. I know it is all about my response, and I need to buck up. What I need from you amazing ladies are some comeback lines. :) I've already started my list in response to the lovely comments I've already heard (most likely my facebook Pg announcement as well. ) Please feel free to add to it!

-Yes, we know what causes it, we quite enjoy it.

-Yes, we do have a t.v., see above statement.

[ElizabethN]

"May I please speak to your supervisor?"

[SusanH]

I wish you could have my ob! She had her eighth child at age 41, so she never blinked an eye at me expecting number 5 at age 40, and when I discussed Essure with her, she said, "Just be really sure you're done. You still have time for more kids."

I haven't gotten nearly as many comments as I thought I would. Just lots of, "Boy, you have your hands full!" But people started saying that when I had 2-3 kids.

I can't imagine telling a woman who has suffered five pregnancy losses that she obviously has no fertility issues. :confused: People baffle me.

[Froggy Jen]

Wow! I'd switch offices to be honest. How rude! I'm terrible at comebacks in the moment. So, I like your idea of a list.

[HFD23]

Wow. Just....wow.

I agree with asking to speak with the supervisor.


For the record, I'm over the moon excited for you. I've always greatly admired those with large families. :)

[bugsmom]

I would have asked to speak to a supervisor. That is uncalled for.

[heatherb]

I don't get people.

The crabby lady that let's people in and out of the apartment building where we are staying in NYC asked if I was pregnant with my third child. I told her I was and she asked if I was happy about that. In front of my children. I was dumbfounded to say the least.

[justjen]

Ah yes! I remember those remarks! :noid: BTW...Congratulations!!! :D

[Mandowife]

I had number 6 when I was 6 days from being 38. When people comment about the size of our family we ways tell them we are planning on 6 more when we get these grown!

Congratulations!!!

[Tami C]

~lurking~
First, congrats on your newest bundle!

Shame on her for making those comments. I would think that if any set of people should be schooled on what to say and what NOT to say to pregnant women, it would be people who work in OB/GYN practices. If you choose not to speak with someone at the office about her behavior, she may never realize how thoughtless and cruel her remarks were. Not that it is your job to teach her how to be a decent human being, just that nobody knows they are stupid until someone points it out.

So anyway, having 3 babies of my own, plus had custody of my cousin's dd for 10 years and 2 stepsons, we got comments ALL. THE. TIME. And since the last two were born 19 months apart and when I was 35/36 and dh was 38/39, we heard about that too. So here are some things I came back with over the months and years~

> Yes, they are all mine. I am the luckiest Mommy on Earth.
> Yes, this baby makes (5) (6). We would have had 9 but God kept 3 for Himself.
> Naw, we're not done yet. Not till we're stacking cribs in every corner. Not til every last hair on his head is stark white. Not til a baby comes out with my uterus in it's hand.> Are you paying for their college? Then why do you care?
> I'm glad you don't have 6 kids too. You probably couldn't handle it. Good thing I can.
> Six kids? Pshaw, this is nothing. The only thing that wears me down is nosy strangers.

The italicised one was in response to a lady at Bingo (dh was a volunteer fireman, I was helping him in the kitchen and pg with Patti, who was born after 3 m/c in a row) who had NO IDEA who my husband was, who I was, or how many children we already had. For all she knew, this was my first baby. She said to me, "Don't you think that ought to be your last baby?" :mad:

Again, congrats on the new baby!

[Melanie]

Honestly, I really think you should write a letter to the office manager, not trying to get anyone in trouble (because I know you wouldn't do that), but to educate these women on how hurtful those sorts of statements can be. It sounds like your OB needs to have a sensitivity class for her staff.

Ok, comebacks. I'm pretty bad at this.
"If you had children like mine, you'd want more, too!"
"Is that really what you intended to say, or did that just fall out of your mouth accidentally?"

Sheesh, I got nothing, but I'll keep thinking.

[redjay39]

congrats on pregnancy and i understand the comments i got told after last miscarriage to stop trying and be thankful for what i got at home, i get a few comments at apps but nothing like what you got so hat off to you for rising above as for comments i think tami has given you some good ones i think i will try a couple of them myself

[Froggy Jen]

"Is that really what you intended to say, or did that just fall out of your mouth accidentally?"


OMG I love this!!!

[HFD23]

I had number 6 when I was 6 days from being 38. When people comment about the size of our family we ways tell them we are planning on 6 more when we get these grown!

Congratulations!!!

:lol:

The more I think about this, the more I think I'd have just burst into tears and gone into a long spiel about how desperately I've wanted to have more children, and how devastated I was about the m/c, and how all my life all I'd wanted was to have a big family and how frustrating it had been to get the 5 I currently had, etc - just made a big ol' dramatic scene. Sobbing, hiccuping, the whole works.

[sunny-d]

I knew posting this would help me. :) I wondered if it was just that I'm uber sensitive. If the attitude continues from the nurses I will definitely say something. Both docs have 5 and 6 kids, so from them I get happy smiles and reviews for Suburbans. :)

I love some of your responses... Mel, especially yours, because sometimes I think people need to know how what they say actually sounds! My oldest sister has 10 children and my other sister has 7, but they are both so totally mellow they have no comebacks for me. :lol:

[KimberlyAnn]

I just made my fb announcement today and so far the only thing I got was being asked if this baby was planned. WTF?

[Bella'sMommy]

this baby only makes 3 for me.. and I'm dreading the look/comments from my boss when I officially tell her I'm expecting.... she wasn't pleased when I told her about my first .. let alone the second.. the third one is going to be a HUGE issue... but congrats to you.. it is no ones business but your own if you wanted 8 more!