MardiGrasGirl
05-10-2005, 06:07 PM
If so, please tell me it gets better!!! He was supposed to take a so-called half day today and it's 6:00 and he's still not home. He called me and told me to put the chicken up bc he'd be home around 5 and we were going to go shopping for new shoes for E's communion so we'd just eat out (like we really have money for that :rolleyes: ).
He just called me and he's still not coming home yet. He says they'd let him take full days off but he can't bc he leaves on Sunday so he needs to be there this week. Yet apparently he's not even going to come home for half the day. I've told him I hate this and that I don't think he'll be volunteering to do the third year (supposedly it's only 2 years mandatory, a third would be voluntary) and he just keeps telling me I don't know that yet. It's the beginning still so it's hard to tell. But in my mind, if he's not getting to come home and unpack (remember the permissive TDY he asked if he could wait until our furniture got here and they said yes?) then I don't see how they are going to be allowing of other things. It's not like he's asking for time he's not owed. Technically he's asking for the 10 days (not even 10 days if he could be here full days) permissive TDY that he was authorized upon arrival but was told he could take when we moved into the house. His days that are supposed to be given to him! HIS days!!!
I hate the stupid DS thing!!! Ok, I'm sure you all are getting sick of hearing/reading this, but I don't want to be here. There is this huge part of me that would rather just leave and go back home to family. If I'm thinking that after a month here, how are we going to make it through 2 years? When he requested the JSTARS assignment everyone told him not to, that it breaks up marriages. We made it through there fine and that's actually where I want to go back to. But I wonder why no one warned him about what being a DS can do to a marriage. Bc from what I'm seeing so far it's only going to hurt it.
I don't know. I keep trying to tell myself that I'm just stressed from all of the things we have going (no money right now, the house still in GA, trying to unpack, etc) and once things start working out (getting our reimbursements, renting/selling the house in GA, finish unpacking, etc) I will start to feel better and start to like it here. But it's hard to imagine that when right now EVERYTHING sucks.
He just called me and he's still not coming home yet. He says they'd let him take full days off but he can't bc he leaves on Sunday so he needs to be there this week. Yet apparently he's not even going to come home for half the day. I've told him I hate this and that I don't think he'll be volunteering to do the third year (supposedly it's only 2 years mandatory, a third would be voluntary) and he just keeps telling me I don't know that yet. It's the beginning still so it's hard to tell. But in my mind, if he's not getting to come home and unpack (remember the permissive TDY he asked if he could wait until our furniture got here and they said yes?) then I don't see how they are going to be allowing of other things. It's not like he's asking for time he's not owed. Technically he's asking for the 10 days (not even 10 days if he could be here full days) permissive TDY that he was authorized upon arrival but was told he could take when we moved into the house. His days that are supposed to be given to him! HIS days!!!
I hate the stupid DS thing!!! Ok, I'm sure you all are getting sick of hearing/reading this, but I don't want to be here. There is this huge part of me that would rather just leave and go back home to family. If I'm thinking that after a month here, how are we going to make it through 2 years? When he requested the JSTARS assignment everyone told him not to, that it breaks up marriages. We made it through there fine and that's actually where I want to go back to. But I wonder why no one warned him about what being a DS can do to a marriage. Bc from what I'm seeing so far it's only going to hurt it.
I don't know. I keep trying to tell myself that I'm just stressed from all of the things we have going (no money right now, the house still in GA, trying to unpack, etc) and once things start working out (getting our reimbursements, renting/selling the house in GA, finish unpacking, etc) I will start to feel better and start to like it here. But it's hard to imagine that when right now EVERYTHING sucks.